Just after writing the ’10 Questions to Ask for Success’ book I was privileged to have a conversation with an amazing woman who worked in a very prominent position for a very well known media corporation.
She told me a story about how she had been at cocktail party, and noticed an eminent playwright. This was a man who she had been wanting to talk to about a project involving underprivileged kids and the arts for a long time. She was about to go and talk to him when she was suddenly struck by the thought, ‘what would people think of me, for cornering this man and talking about my project? They might think that I was being pushy, or showing off that I knew him, and what if he didn’t want to speak to me?’ and so on.
Rather wisely she started to use what I now call the 11th question; she asked herself
‘what really matters here?’
‘what really matters here and now in my life?’
You may find that you’re spending too much time doing things that aren’t important, and instead refocus on what you really need to put your energy into…
You can hear me talking more about NLP and how we can use it to change our brains, and lives, on my Essential NLP Podcast here