Stretch your mind…
Have you ever thought:
– What would happen if we changed the way you see the world?
– What are the rules we live by?
– How do we make decisions?
NLP is, to some extent, the study of looking at these and other fascinating questions.
Notice what happens when you take a few minutes today to think how you currently feel about the following ideas – technically called NLP presuppositions- it could just be the mental stretching you need to start seeing things in a new way heading in a different direction.
The intriguing thing about NLP presuppositions is they are not rules; they’re not even considered to be true. The point of them instead is to ask us to imagine ‘if this was true, if we started from this point of view, then what would the world be like’.
Let’s try on the first one:
What if you began from the perspective that people already have all the resources they need?
This is the idea that we already have on board everything we could ever need to achieve the results and changes we wish for in our lives; all we need to do is access those talents. It doesn’t mean to say we have all the information we need, we may need to learn new things – but it does suggest that we have the ability to grasp those new ideas. It’s also the opposite of the idea that we are not up to challenge, or we are less good than other people or somebody else needs to do it for us.
If we spent some time today seeing ourselves as being complete seeing others as being capable and resourceful, then how would that change what we saw in the world, and ourselves, today?
And here is another one of the 11 NLP presuppositions.
What if you took on the idea that there is no such thing as failure only feedback?
You know how when people say,’I am going to give you some feedback’ they often mean I’m going to tell you where you were wrong and complain. This presupposition reclaims the word ‘feedback’, reminding us it means just getting information about how things went. Feedback is the data that we need to assess when things went according to plan or not and to work out what we need to do to make sure it works even better next time.
But as humans we hate the idea of being wrong, we avoid it at all cost- yet as not achieving what you wish for is a natural part of anyone’s road to success, so we need to have a better relationship with unexpected outcomes.
What if, when things didn’t go right, or as planned, instead of becoming upset we really did see it as information? What would that be like? How would that free us to try more things out? How would it help us to sift through people’s disappointment or complaints for the useful information that would help us do even better next time?
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About Phil Parker
Phil specialises in the psychology of health, happiness and genius.